Are you ready to get real personal? Good, let’s go. It’s no secret that what is being presented on social media is not always a person’s reality. The truth is we try to show all the positive, and tend to ignore the negative to uphold a certain image. Only, I don’t know what image I am trying to uphold. I would like to think I am as honest and open as possible but the truth is I keep to myself when I am dealing with certain things.
You have to practice what you preach. I said before that asking for help doesn’t make you any less independent. The last few weeks I had some doubts, and haven’t been in a good place at all. I let people around me in and they really helped me to land back on my feet. The thing is though, I kept everything quiet on social media. People around me know I was going through a more difficult time, but all you could see online was me having a ‘great time’ in London.
Yes, I still forced myself to get up and leave the house but although I was out with people I wasn’t exactly present in the moment. Even now as I am writing this post, having finished two previous posts that don’t address my personal situation at all I feel as if I am just hiding behind a massive brick wall. It is so easy to type up something, or to capture a very happy and positive moment. But when it comes to sadder times and struggles of all sorts it suddenly becomes so difficult to put things into words.
I have touched on the subject of mental health before, but I can’t stress enough how important it is to check on people. Even if everything seems okay, just make sure it really is. It is easy to hide away when you’re going through a difficult time, but it is never the best option. Surround yourself with the right people that will not judge you for not being able to put feelings into proper words, people that will just listen and try to make you see the situation from a different angle.
Something else that really helps me put my thoughts in order when I feel like I am drowning in doubt and negativity is to write everything down. No typing, but proper pen on paper writing. There is something so therapeutical, almost magical about writing words down onto paper. I really believe that once you write something down it is out of the mind, hence I write all my to-do lists at work on a notepad.
The worst thing you can do when you are having a more negative period is to go on social media and look at the positive image people try to promote. No, you’re not on the beach in a tropical country right now but that doesn’t mean you can’t have as much of a great time as the person that is. Positivity is key, but that doesn’t mean you can never have a negative thought. It is all about finding balance between the good and bad, and never ever ever comparing yourself to others. Especially not when that comparison is based on social media.
Lots of love,