Grab a cup of tea, maybe also a snack, because this is going to be one of those posts. Let me start by giving you a little background story about my personal situation. I have said before that I am an introvert when it comes to friendships, but today I would like to touch upon another aspect of life in which being an introvert has some disadvantages.
Your personality is key
Besides being an introvert, I am also very independent, almost to the extend that I’d rather do everything myself. But this is so wrong. You can’t expect to know everything or to be able to do everything yourself. Accepting help, or better yet asking for it does not make you any less independent. If anything, it shows that you know your abilities and your limits, making you even more independent.
In my 22-years-existance I have also really struggled talking about anything related to my emotions/feelings etc. I am very sensitive, and experience very strong emotions which makes me hesitant to open up to people. Even my closest friends will never get to hear the full story of what might be bothering me. This is also very wrong. Keeping everything to yourself is not actually going to improve the situation. If you’re feeling blue, talk about it!
You are still in charge
Asking for help might seem as if you are giving away some of your control over your own life. This is far from true. If you ask the right people for advice or a hand, the choice is always still yours to take that advice or help. Sometimes it is good to ask others for their opinion or what they would do in certain situations. It might make you realise you have been looking at things in a different way. I know some people are fond of the saying ‘my way or the highway’, but consider another’s opinion and you might be surprised by the outcome.
Stay open-minded, think things through and ask for a helping hand when you need it. You are not alone, nor are you giving up your independence, you are just making your life a lot easier and more pleasant!
Lots of Love,