Are We Scared to Make Conversation IRL?

How do you normally stay in touch with your friends and family? WhatsApp, DMs or do you tweet each other? Yes, Social Media is great because it allows you to stay up to date and to stay in touch with people. But, we might be getting too used to keeping the convos going online. Especially if you are trying to make new friends, for when you are moving abroad or to a different city for example, you tend to notice the level of awkwardness that often comes with small talk. 

As a social introvert, it takes a lot of effort to approach people and try and make a conversation. Luckily, when I moved to London nearly a year ago now I already knew a few people in the city. However, as time passed by some of my friends left because their internships came to an end. A buzzing city like London, with lots to do every single day, can feel lonely very easily. Also, the fact that I had always been surrounded by people my own age at either high school or uni meant that I would always find a ‘squad’ to hang out with. Now that I found myself out of the educational environment, on my own in the big city, I knew I had to somehow put myself out there. 

A few times already, people had recommended special Facebook groups that connect people with similar interests and also a ‘dating app’ for friends; Bumble BFF. Believe me, I made the same cringing face when I first heard about it! Once the moderators of the Facebook groups accepted me, however, I soon realised that there are thousands, maybe millions of people that felt the same way. They are just people like you and me, trying to find like-minded people to hang out with. It’s as simple as that. Why do we have to do this online? The answer is pretty simple isn’t it, we do everything online these days. Especially with Bumble BFF, where you have one-on-one convos with people, you can still protect yourself because you are on the other end of the phone. When things get awkward you just move on to the next match. No need to make any excuses so you can go home early…  

So far, I’ve been to a few Facebook meet-ups but never really walk out of them with a feeling that I will see the people again. Usually too many people participate, making it difficult to get to know a handful of people well. They are good for just getting yourself out of the house though. On Bumble BFF however, I have matched with girls that I could really keep chats going. I still have a few pending meet-ups, and have already met my absolute best friend in the city. The title of the app certainly does not lie! Mainly because you are in charge of whom you’re swiping right, most of your matches will have good potential. In addition, you don’t have to wait around forever as both parties have 24 hours to start the convo after matching. If the 24 hours have passed and the other party has not replied it’s done. Match gone. This way you’re ensured to match with ‘active’ people that want to make new friends right now, instead of the vague ‘someday’. 

Photography by Anuschka Giersthove

Am I ashamed of how I am making my new friends in London? No, why should I be? We are living in a digital age, so it makes sense that people prefer to approach each other in the digital world. All is cool, as long as we never forget how to have a genuinely good time with friends in real life. 








Have you ever tried a dating app for friends?

Lots of Love,




  1. Nancy U
    December 8, 2017 / 7:28 pm

    I also find myself to be an introvert. I force myself to engage in conversations and it has become easier with time. Love your outfit

    • Savannah Giersthove
      December 25, 2017 / 12:05 pm

      The more practise you get, the easier it becomes right! Thank you Nancy x

  2. Magalys
    January 13, 2018 / 5:18 am

    I definitely feel this way now that I’m in college, I feel like people don’t talk to each other and it’s frustrating.

    • Savannah Giersthove
      March 25, 2018 / 12:27 pm

      It really is. I have learned to step out of my comfort zone and reach out, although it is not always as easy and can be very awkward from time to time! x