In honour of last weeks’ Mental Health Awareness Day, I want to dedicate this post to those of us that are struggling. I initially did not want to write anything about the topic, just because I felt like I am not the right person to do so. I am not an expert, nor do I have serieus issues with my mental health. However, here I am today, telling you that it is okay not to be okay.
Life is full of surprises, one of them being that despite most people will answer a simple ‘How are you’ with ‘Fine/Good/Okay’ half of those people are not actually ‘Fine/Good/Okay’. Then why do we tend to blatantly lie about our feelings? Is it fear of judgement? Is it a certain stigma around mental health issues that make people think twice before admitting struggles?
The answer is probably both. Regrettably so, since our mental health is just like our overall health. One day we wake up feeling fit, the next you might wake up with a sore throat or a fever. This doesn’t make us chronically ill (in most cases), it just means that health is not something that is very consistent or stable. Mental health is no different in my opinion. One day I wake up feeling amazing about everything, whereas the very next I might feel a bit ‘under the weather’ and look at life slightly more negatively.
Does that make me depressed? Maybe, yes. I have been going through some pretty difficult times, both because of my environment and my personal outlook on life. I used to be the kind of person that took life way too seriously, I would only be focused on school and my future for example. Completely neglecting the fact that I should also take time and enjoy life right now. Looking back at these times, I might have been pretty depressed for a while. I luckily never came to a point where help was needed, but it did take quite a while for me to change this mind-set.
It sounds very cliché, but the first time I was hospitalised (nothing serious thank goodness) made realise that life is damn short. Honestly, it only takes one second for your life to change completely. I don’t mean to upset you at all, but it is good to realise that not everything is as important right now. What matters is that you are making the most out of every day that you are a healthy, living human being. This is different for everyone, but a good starting point is trying to find gratitude in small things. If I had a long, rather boring day I might stop for some ice-cream or a donut on my way home. Just to treat myself a little. It doesn’t even have to cost you money, re-watching your favourite film or listening to your favourite album before bed also count as treats!
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Even now, that all the stars seem to have aligned and I am enjoying life a little too much perhaps, I sometimes still get this negative mood that’s just like a dark cloud hanging above my head. But that’s okay. Life is about ups and downs, if we are extremely content all the time we will probably start taking that happiness for granted. On these days, I try to get the negativity out of my system. Either write in a diary or watch the saddest film and cry your eyes out, letting these emotions out will definitely help you get out of the negative funk. The next day, wake up with an open mind and let the day surprise you. Most importantly, don’t be afraid to say that you are not feeling 100%. Sharing is caring, and if you are not able to get out of the negative mood yourself, your family or friends might be able to cheer you up a bit!
Honesty is also good because it will help people keep track of you, if you are starting to feel worse and worse, it will become more difficult to ask for help. Just remember that you are not alone, and that people will support you when needed. You have to allow people in though, because that is the thing with mental health, it is not visible. Allow people to know how or what you are feeling, and together let’s raise mental health awareness because it is a real problem that needs to be addressed.
Lots of Love,