When it comes to the tale of my hair and I we could go all the way back to that iconic day in the early 2000s, when I desperately wanted bangs like all my straight-haired friends. My mother then realised that I wasn’t going to take no for an answer on this one and decided to grab a pair of scissors and cut me my beloved bangs. No, they didn’t turn out exactly the way I wanted them to look…
Fast forward a decade and here I am embracing my natural bouncy curls, partially thanks to my mother, who always made sure that I loved and appreciated my hair despite it being so different from everyone around me. Believe me when I say this journey hasn’t always been easy and it still isn’t. For years I had been religiously straightening my hair, manipulating its natural texture, because I simply didn’t educate myself enough about my hair.
The difficulty with my hair has always been the fact that it is too ‘European’ for Afro-hairstylists and too ‘Afro’ for European hairstylists, same with the hair products. Luckily, there are so many curly haired girls and guys out there now, resulting in an ever-growing supply of curly hair products, curly hairstyles and the many curly hair routines shared on YouTube (which have been my guide to my current natural hair care).
Last month marked exactly one year without straighteners and I am already able to see how my curls have developed. As I mentioned before, the many tutorials and informational videos available on YouTube really helped me to understand what natural hair needs in order to be healthy. For instance, I discovered that there are different hair types, mine being somewhere in between type 3B and 3C as well as density and porosity (it’s only been one year; I am yet to find out my hair’s density and porosity). I learned to step away from hair products containing parabens and sulfates, although I find my scalp tends to get a tad oily at times and I therefore still use regular shampoo every now and then.
After too much hair damage caused by bleach, I cut my hair in an extremely short bob that I used to straighten during the first couple of months. I then miraculously decided it was enough (to be honest with you I was just so fed up with spending over an hour every week straightening my hair) and wore it as a curly bob.
Growing out your hair is never a fun process but that doesn’t make it less necessary. I just let my hair be for at least 5 months, until I finally went to a hairstylist specialised in cutting curly hair. It is honestly so important to find a hairstylist specialised in your hair type.
While I have been told by hairstylist after hairstylist that my hair was too thick, too curly and too whatever to cut bangs (even after I ensured them I always straightened my hair). I finally found a hairstylist that agreed on the fact that bangs do look bloody good on curly hair! Victory at last!
Stay curly my friends.
Lots of Love,